Showing posts with label Gratitude. Show all posts
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Wednesday, August 12, 2026

Dayenu Summer | "If You Only ... It Would Have Been Enough"


The Chosen Season 5 Episode 4 Dayenu

Everything is a gift.
The degree to which we are awake
to this truth is a measure of gratefulness,
and gratefulness 
is a measure of our aliveness. 

+ Diana Butler Bass

As we enter the middle of this summer, with moments of rest and fun going to plan, or perhaps nothing turning out the way we thought it would, I am reminded again of the historic prayer, Dayenu. Lore Ferguson Wilbert provides an introduction for the curious:

Dayenu

There is a word used in song
when Yahweh, the LORD, brings His people
through yet another trial.

The word is dayenu,
meaning something along the lines of
"and if nothing else,
it would have been enough."

If the Lord God had merely fed us
during the famine but not given
us a home in Egypt,
it would have been enough.
If the Lord God had given us a home
in Egypt but not kept us
from being enslaved,
it would have been enough.
If the Lord God had brought us out Egypt
but not parted the Red Sea,
it would have been enough.
If the Lord God had parted the Red Sea
but not brought every last one
of us through it,
it would have been enough.

This was their way of saying,
"No matter what the future is,
what You've done for us
is enough."

+ Lore Ferguson Wilbert,
The Understory

A grace-filled focus on Dayenu was also reinforced by what I think is one of the most beautiful scenes The Chosen has ever produced thus far. During Season Five, Episode Four: The Same Coin, there are two scenes that we don't find recorded in the Scriptures, but would be an essential part to the Jewish tradition of celebrating Passover each year. (You can hear the Perrys and the Jenkinses humbly and humorously describe this moment in "The Meaning of Dayenu" short from the full With the Perrys episode, "The Art of Stewarding Your 5 Loaves and 2 Fish.")

The first scene of "The Same Coin" episode in season five is with Jesus and His disciples during Passover, reciting the Traditional Dayenu preserved throughout the millienia (an abridged excerpt is provided below).


Jesus:
John, will you begin the Dayenu
for us?

St. John: 
Yes, of course, Rabbi.
If He had brought us out from Egypt,
and not carried out judgement 
against them ...

All:
It would have been enough. 

St. Simon: 
If He had carried out judgements
against them, and
not destroyed their idols ... 

All:
It would have been enough ...

St. Philip:
If He had given us their wealth 
and had not split the Sea for us ...

All:
It would have been enough. 

Zebedee:
If He had split the Sea for us and
had not taken us through it 
on dry land ...

If He had supplied us
in the desert for 40 years and
not fed us the manna ... 

All:
It would have been enough. 

St. Matthew:
If He had fed us the manna,
and had not given us the Shabbat ... 

All:
It would have been enough. 

St. Thomas:
If He had given us the Shabbat
and not brought us before Mt. Sinai ...

All:
It would have been enough. 

Zebedee:
If He had brought us before Mt. Sinai
and not given us the Torah ...

All:
It would have been enough. 

St. Philip:
If He had given us the Torah, but
not brought us to the land of Israel ...

All:
It would have been enough. 

St. Andrew:
If He had brought us to 
the land of Israel and
not built us the Holy Temple ... 

All:
It would have been enough.

So many acts of God's rescue, protection, justice, generosity, provision, direction, and more are recorded in the Story of Israel. And in practicing gratitude, the children of God recognized His steadfast love that endures forever year after year.

Jesus Dayenu in Season 5 Episode 4 of The Chosen

And then the closing scene to the episode brought the Dayenu to new life in light of Jesus and what it's like to thank Him personally for all that He does for us.


Mary, Mother of Jesus:
If I had only been given the joy 
of holding You in my arms 
that night in Bethlehem
on a cold ground,
and not been able to see You
perform signs and wonders ... 

All:
It would have been enough.

St. Mary Magdalene:
If You had performed 
signs and wonders and
not called me by name that night ... 

All:
It would have been enough.

Eden, Wife of St. Peter:
If You had healed Mary of Magdala 
of her demons and not healed my Ima 
or called my husband 
after Your miracle ... 

All:
It would have been enough.

Tamar, Friend of the Paralytic: 
If You had called Simon Peter 
and not healed my friend ... 

All:
It would have been enough.

Martha of Bethany, Sister of Lazarus: 
If You had healed Eden 
and not raised my brother ... 

All:
It would have been enough.

Mary of Bethany, Sister of Lazarus: 
If You had raised my brother 
and not defended my honor 
when I worshipped You ... 

All:
It would have been enough.

St. Joanna, Wife of Chuza: 
If You had defended Mary of Bethany,
 but not given meaning to my life, which
had been so unhappy and unfulfilled 
by letting me support and participate 
in this  miraculous family 
that I do believe will change the world ... 

All:
It would have been enough.

I am becoming more and more aware that I need to look back, not only each year, but each month, each week, and each day (ex. the prayer of Examen by St. Ignatius of Loyola) with a posture of Dayenu ... And if You had only (fill in the blank, Lord) ... It would have been enough.

What is my Dayenu to Jesus?
In relation to the gift of my marriage?
The gift of my family?
The gift of my home and neighborhood?
The gift of work and my vocation?
The gift of Emmaus City Church?

Jesus, if You had called me to be
It would have been enough.

Jesus, if we had only formed
It would have been enough.

Jesus, if I only got to be friends
It would have been enough.

Jesus, if I only saw one person
change their life forever ...
It would have been enough.

Jesus, if I only got to serve at
with You and others a few times ...
It would have been enough.

Jesus, if we only celebrated
It would have been enough.

Jesus, if we only had the privilege to
It would have been enough.

Jesus, if You only had us
It would have been enough.

To close this post, I encourage you to consider your own dayenu. Along with the example above, here are a few practices below from a fellow minister in consideration of grace, gratitude, and how Yeshua (Jesus' name in Hebrew, which means "The LORD saves") invites us with open, wounded hands to have our life sing the song of dayenu.

On Gratitude 
Gratitude is the basis of all holiness.
The most holy person you know
is the most grateful person you know.
To be a saint is to
be fueled by gratitude,
nothing more and nothing less.

+ Ronald Rolheiser,
At the heart of gratitude is awareness that all of life is grace. “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows” (James 1:17). Everything is a gift. We live on a graced planet. Nothing is earned, nothing is deserved. All of life is grace. 
And the grace of our Lord is wastefully generous. God could have made one kind of bird and instead he made 10,000 species of winged color. He could have made food taste all the same, supplying our need for daily nourishment – instead he created an environment that can produce the likes of curry, jambalaya, and apple pie. He made a world where ants build hills, water falls from the sky, and leaves change colors and regenerate in a matter of months. 
There is enough wonder and delicious diversity in our world to keep a person in awe for a lifetime. 
The degree to which we are aware of this truth is a measure of our gratitude. Plenty of people notice our world, but gratitude goes beyond observation to receiving reality as a gift. It was the original lie of the serpent that God is distant and uncaring, and that we humans should go it alone. This is still the lie that humans believe; in fact, in our culture we are taught that independence and self-sufficiency make for the good life. But the truth is the opposite – dependence on the all-sufficient Father makes for the good life. The grateful person lives in total awareness and reliance on the Father’s good gifts every moment. 
A breakthrough came for me
when I realized that gratitude
is not a passive disposition
but a learned habit.
It is a discipline of awareness
to the Father’s grace
and our own response to it.
Paul commands, “Give thanks in all circumstances.” (1 Thess. 5:18). Or just simply, “Be thankful” (Col. 4:2). I think I always considered gratefulness as something that happened to you when a happy, positive circumstance occurred. But Paul suggests exactly the opposite: the discipline of gratitude in the midst of any circumstance leads to joy. It is not the happy person who is grateful – it is the grateful person who is happy, whose eyes are open to the abundance of all things. 
So how has this changed my life? 
 | 1 |
On waking, I let my first words
be words of thanksgiving.
“Thank you Father,
thank you Son,
thank you Spirit ... ”
Waking from sleep and
having a new day to live
in the mercy of the gospel
is an amazing gift in itself.

 | 2 |
Then, throughout the day,
I look for cues that prompt thanksgiving.
My friend Bob Stamps taught me 
a simple prayer
to utter every time you experience
even the smallest good:
a text from a friend,
a sip of coffee,
light filtering through the trees.
“Hear the praise of this grateful heart”
is a prayer that I now use
innumerable times throughout the day.

 | 3 |
Before bedtime, I try to conduct
a brief review of the day —
the practice of “Examen.”
Doing so helps me remember
the gifts of the day and to
close my hours with thanks.

I don’t always keep these habits,
but even the sporadic discipline of gratitude
has awakened me to the Father’s love
and the gift of ordinary life.

+ Facebook. Widmer, Corey.
"On Gratitude."

Christ is all,

Rev. Mike "Sully" Sullivan

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Monday, August 3, 2026

Castles of the Mind | Your Longing Has a Name and a Hope


Studio Ghibli's Howl's Moving Castle

Imagine your future self
ten years from now.
What kind of person are you?
How are you different
from the person you are now?
Are you flourishing?

+ Dominic Done
Your Longing Has a Name

In the past few years, one writer who has emerged as a new favorite is Dominic Done. His first published work that I read was When Faith Fails: Finding God in the Shadow of Doubt. And last year, Your Longing Has a Name: Come Alive to the Story You Were Made For was also a good read.

This post features excerpts from Chapter 9: Castles of the Mind, one of my favorite chapters from the book. Done invites us to take a step back from how our rapid firing thoughts (often fueled by what we're scrolling through on our cell phones) are forming us into more anxious and temperamental people. And then, by being still with God and ourselves, we can see how we might be transformed by the renewing of our minds so that we respond to life with grace we've received and gratitude we can give.

The Architect of Imagination

Every one of us has a self 
we're forging.
What does it look like?
Are you more or less anxious
than you are now?
More or less generous?
More or less joyful?
Is your relationship 
with God thriving?
What about forgiveness?
What about addictions?

Let God transform you
into a new person 
by changing the way you think.
Then you will learn to know 
God's will for you.

+ Romans 12:2, NLT

Notice how God desires 
to reconstruct the architecture
of our imagination.
When we allow Him to change
how we think, then we grow
in our awareness of His will
for our lives.

Your actions matter, and if done virtuously and consistently, they contribute to the renewing of your mind. Healthy thoughts are the substrate of a healthy life. Proverbs 23:7 says: "For as a person thinks in their heart, so are they." 

Increasingly, researchers are discovering that your thought life is one of the biggest predictors and influencers of the kind of person you're becoming. Neuroscientists Steven R. Quartz and Terrence J. Sejnowski reveal:

"Every nuance of yourself,
the very fabric of your experience,
ultimately arises from the machinations
of your brain.
The brain houses your humanity."

The You Your Thoughts Create

Did you know your thoughts have the power to shape the physical structure of your brain? Every thought you have is an electrochemical event, producing signals that fire information through your nervous system. If certain thoughts occur frequently, connections are formed between neurons that get increasingly sensitive and strong, and eventually they form new receptors and synapses. These neural pathways produce a volume of physiological changes, affecting your emotions, perceptions, energy, sleep, stress levels, and cardiovascular and digestive health. Scientists now believe that thoughts even influence our genetics.

Every moment of every day, your body is responding to the substance of your thoughts. So if you're constantly focused on toxic and negative ideas — how you'll never succeed, how badly you botched a decision, how others gossip about your or dislike you, how underqualified you are, or how you'll never amount to anything — you're carving pathways in your brain that not only make it easier to continue thinking that way but will also influence the kinds of decisions you make in the future. Likewise, if you choose to dwell on the good — the presence of God in your life, His love and acceptance of you, how He has provided for you, protected you, healed you, and called you — those thoughts physically change your neural structure, making you more receptive to identify and experience God's favor.

Every time you give space 
and time to a thought,
you're conditioning your brain
to move in that direction.
Soon it becomes second nature.
If you focus on anxious,
harmful thoughts,
you're deepening 
your neural pathways.
Or if you choose to focus on
what is uplifting and edifying,
you're strengthening those pathways.

The peace of God,
which transcends all understanding,
will guard your hearts and minds
in Christ Jesus.
Whatever is true, whatever is noble,
whatever is right, whatever is pure,
whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable
 — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy
— think about such things.

+ St. Paul
(Philippians 4:7-8)
  
Just like a river finds the path
of least resistance,
the flow of your life inevitably rushes
toward your most persistent thoughts.

The focus of your thoughts
determines the framework of your life.

Repetition becomes reflex.
Reflex becomes routine.
Routine becomes action.
Action becomes identity.

Researchers at Harvard University discovered there's a small but powerful part of the brain called the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex. Think of it as the brain's "pattern seeker." Its preliminary purpose is to apply guidance regarding the decisions we make in the present while drawing from decisions we've made in the past. In other words, the thoughts we act on, especially those we repeatedly carry out, set a precedent for how we'll act in the future.

For example, on average, people check their phones within ten seconds of getting in line anywhere. Why is that? It's because we've hardwired our brains to demand digital distraction. That's why we sometimes reach into our pocket thinking our phones are vibrating. Medical professionals call this phenomenon "phantom vibration syndrome." We're so addicted to our screens and the consequent dopamine hits they give us that when we're not staring at them, our brains get annoyed and trick us into picking them up.

Our minds are a jumbled cacophony of well-worn trails. Habits, practices, decisions, impulses, and subconscious reactions crisscross through us — shaping future habits, practices, and decisions. After years and years of reacting to situations in set ways, our responses become preprogrammed, indexing our soul's identities. 

Thus, when new decisions arise, 
we simply do what we've always done. 
Often without knowing it.
You are repeatedly what you think.

But here's the good news ... 

The You You Can Become

We can change.
We can evolve.
Neurons can rewire.

Your brain has a remarkable ability to remap itself. Our mental ruts can get unstuck, and new trails can be forged. Brains are far more pliable than our emotions would have us believe. Elizabeth R. Thornton, a contributor to Psychology Today, gives us hope:

Because of the power of neuroplasticity,
you can, in fact, reframe your world
and rewire your brain
so that you are more objective.
You have the power to see things
as they are so that you can respond
thoughtfully, deliberately, and effectively
to everything you experience.

You don't have to react slavishly to virulent thoughts. You can revolt. You can rewrite the script, choose more beautiful paths, and create new ways of moving through the world.

Here are three practices to live this out:

 | 1 |  recognize 
unhealthy patterns of thinking

| 2 |  control 
your response

| 3 |  replace
unhealthy thoughts with gratitude

 | 1 |  
Recognize
Unhealthy Patterns of Thinking 

Because our thought life is a battle, Paul borrowed a military phrase to depict how to have a godly mind: We "demolish strongholds" (2 Corinthians 10:4-5). A stronghold was a fortified defensive or military structure. Picture a medieval castle looming on a hill. Your mind is like that castle. Every thought you choose to dwell on is like a stone in the castle wall. At first, it may seem insignificant — each stone an impulse, passion, or desire — but if you jump ahead years, you've built a castle.

Really?
How can I control my thoughts?

On any given day, the average person
has sixty thousand of them.
Some are wholesome thoughts.
Others are harmful and corrosive.

How are we expected to
take them captive?

 | 2 |  
Control
Your Response

You can't control what thoughts come at you, but here's what you can control: what you do with them when they enter your mind.

"You cannot keep birds
from flying over your head,
but you can keep them from
building a nest in your hair." 

+ Martin Luther 

It's true that angry, impure, 
toxic, guilt-ridden, jealous,
fearful thoughts will race
through your mind on any given day.
It's called being human, and you can
own that part of your humanity.
But you still have the power
to determine if you're going to give
your mental energy to them.

If you're like me, you know how easy it is for toxic thoughts to take on a life of their own. Fueled by fear, frustration, insecurity, guilt, or resentment, they gaslight your imagination until you affirm their lies.

What is real
and how feel
are two very different things.

That's why instead of letting
destructive thoughts
have unlimited access to
our headspace,
we ought to step back and
discern whether or not the thought
has merit.

Ask yourself:

+ Why do I feel like this?
+ Could I be wrong?

+ Could I be misreading,
exaggerating, or thinking 
the worst about this situation?

+ What assumptions am I making?
+ Is there any evidence that supports
these thoughts?

+ Are these thoughts true, noble, right,
pure, lovely, admirable,
excellent, or praiseworthy?

+ Is there a healthier way
to interpret what is happening?

+ How can I think the best
about this person?

Researchers have discovered that
it only takes between five and 16 minutes
a day of calm, meditative thinking
to furnish our minds with the capacity
to respond to difficult situations.

For you, it might mean 
before you head out the door.

Or sitting in your car and 
before you step into the workplace.

clearing your mind from the anxiety
of the day,
and frustrations, and 
breathing in God's love and grace.

These simple practices train your mind for godliness. They nurture an environment of inner shalom that allows you to respond wisely rather than impulsively and emotionally to the myriad thoughts you have each day. 

A study at Oregon State University 
revealed that those who pray
are able to regulate their emotions
in a healthier way.

When you choose to catch your thoughts,
rather than letting them catch
and control you,
you're not only preventing conflict,
destructive spirals, or
choices you'd later regret;
you're also freeing up mental bandwidth
that you can channel toward
your flourishing.

Stillness tranquilizes the worried, anxious thoughts that ricochet unrelentingly within. It is the sacred hush of the prayerful soul.

 | 3 |  
Replace
Unhealthy Thoughts with Gratitude

When you begin to honestly reflect on your thoughts, you may be surprised by how many are disconnected from now. Researchers have found that

of the 60,000 thoughts we have per day,
40% are focused on the future, 
30% are focused on the past,
12% are feelings of self-doubt, and
10% are worries about our health.

Only 8% of our thoughts
focus on the present.

It terrifies me to think about
how much life I've missed out on
because of a failure to be 
here.

What I'm learning (from a place of vulnerable admission of how far I know I have to go) is that a potent way to have a godly and disciplined mind — one that's less distracted or swayed by worry and more centered and calm — is to practice gratitude.

What is gratitude?

It's a posture of the soul,
a habit of thinking,
that recognizes and honors God
as the source of all truth,
beauty, and life.

Gratitude is the awareness
of the miraculous gift of 
being. 

Have you forgotten your
wow?

Are there things, places, opportunities, or people that, in your stress and distraction, you've looked past? Have you failed to see the beauty right in front of you? In the hope of big happiness, are you missing the small jobs? God invites you to slow down and fix your thoughts on Him.

Gratitude is the art
of taming your frenetic, 
edacious mind to appreciate

Happiness can only be achieved
by looking inward and learning
to enjoy whatever life has and
this requires transforming
greed into gratitude.

+ St. John Chrysostom

According to the University of Arkansas, thinking grateful thoughts releases the pleasure centers of your brain that make you feel happier. And the best thing? Those feelings of happiness generate a positive feedback loop: you'll be more grateful for them, which only makes you happier.

Gratitude also has a direct impact on your physical well-being. Studies have proven that grateful people have fewer medical appointments and stronger relationships.

Gratitude bolsters the immune system,
decreases blood pressure,
heightens energy levels,
strengthens the heart,
improves emotional intelligence,
increases motivation for self-care
and physical fitness,
and decreases stress,
depression, and headaches.

Being grateful makes you more hopeful,
and it helps you envision a future you
that's holistically thriving.

Gratitude is war.

Gratitude turns disorder into order
and chaos and clarity.

Gratitude unlocks your perspective
and releases you into 
the fullness of life.

When unhealthy thoughts swarm your mind — envy, anxiety, fear, lust, hopelessness, negativity, comparison, insecurity — choose in that moment to capture those destructive ideas with thanksgiving. You may want to speak gratitude out loud or write it in a journal.

What gifts has God given you?
How has He provided
for you in the past?

God is found in rearview mirrors;
 how has He been faithful 
in your journey?  

Take a deep breath and look around:

What is enchanting 
about this moment?
Look closer.
You might be surprised.

a wow is never far away.

Gratitude transfigures
the world you see.

In the Gospels, just hours before Jesus was tortured and killed, He sat at a table with His disciples. To His left was Judas, who betrayed Him for thirty pieces of silver. To His right was Peter, who denied Him at a smoldering fire. Jesus took some bread and broke it. He took a goblet of wine and gave thanks. The Greek word for "gave thanks" is eucharisteo. For Christians, it's the central symbol of our faith: eucharist, or communion. It also contains the word charis, which means grace.

In an atmosphere tense
with the agony of forsaken love,
when the disciples' thoughts
were manipulated by
darkness itself,
Jesus literally gave thanks;
He offered Himself.

Gratitude is seeding grace
into the brokenness.

Gratitude 
adds to your faith
the most beautiful thing of all:
awareness of the God
who is already here.

Come Alive

Jesus and the early disciples revealed that godliness is first formed within, beginning with your thought life. Does how you think line up with the person you want to become? Are there patterns of thinking or strongholds you need to dismantle? What are they?

When we choose gratitude,
we aren't denying our frustration and pain;
we're planting seeds of hope
in the midst of those fractured places.

Gratitude leverages life's brokenness to allow the light into our minds and thoughts. A good place to return to is Philippians 4:8.

What in your life is true?
Noble?
Right?
Pure?
Lovely?
Admirable?
Excellent or praiseworthy?

Take a few minutes and write down some things you're thankful for. 

+ Dominic Done,
"Castles of the Mind"
excerpts from pgs. 132-149
 

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Christ is all,

+ Rev. Mike "Sully" Sullivan


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