Showing posts with label Forgiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Forgiveness. Show all posts

Monday, January 19, 2026

MLK Weekend | Martin Luther King Jr. Prayer, Quotes, "Glory"





We will match your capacity
to inflict suffering
by our capacity
to endure suffering.

We will meet your physical force
with soul force.
And do to us what you will,
and we will still love you. ...

And so throw us in jail,
and as difficult as that is,
we will still love you.

Bomb our homes and
threaten our children
and as difficult as it is,
we will still love you.

Send your hooded perpetrators and
violence into our communities
at the midnight hours and
drag us out on some wayside road and
beat us and leave us half-dead and
we will still love you.

Be assured that
we will wear you down
by our capacity to suffer.

+ MLK,

The more I live, the more I continue to be humbled by Martin Luther King, Jr. What a civil servant and neighbor, what a leader for all people, and what a preacher (ex. listen to 9+ minutes of his "Love Your Enemies" message with more Gospel power than sermons often 3x as long) who embodied much of what Jesus inaugurated as His Kingdom of heaven on earth message: 

“The Spirit of the Lord is on Me, because He has anointed Me to preach Good News to the poor. He has sent Me to proclaim release to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set free the oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.” + Luke 4:18-19

Was he a perfect man like Jesus? No, King had flaws, just like you and me. But so much of what MLK said and did honored Jesus' words and actions. God used Martin in mighty ways to exemplify His purposes of redemption and reconciliation for humanity. And in light of our national holiday, I wanted to honor this pastor who pursued justice, loved mercy, and walked humbly with God by looking at some of MLK's most famous and resonant words that continue to impact us today, some featured in the film, "Selma," and the song, "Glory," that also both help capture some of the great moments of his life.

And for those looking to put their shared passion of MLK and his worldview into presence and compassion in their community, here are some helpful recommendations featured in the article, "MLK Day of Service: Turn a Day Off into a Day of Action".

Martin Luther King, Jr. Prayer


Dearest Jesus, come and sit with us today. 

Show us the lies that are still embedded in the soul of America’s consciousness. Unmask the untruths we have made our best friends. For they seek our destruction. And we are being destroyed, Lord. Reveal the ways the lies have distorted and destroyed our relationships. They break your shalom ... daily.

Give us courage to embrace the truth about ourselves and you and our world. Truth: We are all made in your image. Truth: You are God; we are not. You are God; money is not. You are God; jails, bombs and bullets are not. And give us faith to believe: Redemption of people, relationships, communities and whole nations is possible! Give us faith enough to renounce the lies and tear down the walls that separate us with our hands, with our feet, and with our votes!

O God, in these turbulent days when fear and doubt are mounting high, give us broad visions, penetrating eyes, and power of endurance. Help us to work with renewed vigor for a warless world, for a better distribution of wealth and for a brother/sisterhood that transcends race or color.

In the name and spirit of Jesus we pray. Amen.

Martin Luther King, Jr. Quotes


Emmaus City Racial Reconciliation Worcester MA Soma Acts 29 3DM Christian Reformed Multi-ethnic Network of Missional Communities

"Live like Jesus died yesterday,
rose this morning,
and is coming back tomorrow."

"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."

"The time is always right to do what is right."

"Now, you know, we use our imagination a great deal to try to determine why the priest and the Levite didn’t stop. At times we say they were busy going to a church meeting, an ecclesiastical gathering, and they had to get on down to Jerusalem so they wouldn’t be late for their meeting. At other times we would speculate that there was a religious law that one who was engaged in religious ceremonials was not to touch a human body twenty-four hours before the ceremony. And every now and then we begin to wonder whether maybe they were not going down to Jerusalem, or down to Jericho, rather, to organize a Jericho Road Improvement Association. That’s a possibility. Maybe they felt it was better to deal with the problem from the causal root, rather than to get bogged down with an individual effect. But I’m going to tell you what my imagination tells me. It’s possible that those men were afraid. You see, the Jericho Road is a dangerous road. I remember when Mrs. King and I were first in Jerusalem. We rented a car and drove from Jerusalem down to Jericho. And as soon as we got on that road I said to my wife, ‘I can see why Jesus used this as the setting for his parable.’ It’s a winding, meandering road. It’s really conducive for ambushing. You start out in Jerusalem, which is about twelve hundred miles, or rather, twelve hundred feet above sea level. And by the time you get down to Jericho fifteen or twenty minutes later, you’re about twenty-two feet below sea level. That’s a dangerous road. In the days of Jesus it came to be known as the ‘Bloody Pass.’ And you know, it’s possible that the priest and the Levite looked over that man on the ground and wondered if the robbers were still around. Or it’s possible that they felt that the man on the ground was merely faking , and he was acting like he had been robbed and hurt in order to seize them over there, lure them there for quick and easy seizure. And so the first question that the priest asked, the first question that the Levite asked was, ‘If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?’ But then the Good Samaritan came by, and he reversed the question: ‘If I do not stop to help this man, what will happen to him?'"

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."

"Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?'"

"Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness." 

"The true neighbor will risk his position, his prestige, and even his life for the welfare of others."

"Forgiveness is not an occasional act. It is a permanent attitude. We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power of love."

"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

"Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere."

"The Negro lives on a lonely island of poverty in the midst of a vast ocean of material prosperity. ... We can never be satisfied as long as the Negro is the victim of the unspeakable horrors of police brutality. ... The whirlwinds of revolt will continue to shake the foundations of our nation until the bright day of justice emerges."

"In the midst of a mighty struggle to rid our nation of racial and economic injustice, I have heard many ministers say: 'Those are social issues, with which the Gospel has no real concern.' And I have watched many churches commit themselves to a completely other worldly religion which makes a strange, un-Biblical distinction between body and soul, between the sacred and the secular."

Emmaus City Racial Reconciliation Worcester MA Soma Acts 29 3DM Christian Reformed Network of Missional Communities

"Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable ... Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concerns of dedicated individuals."

"Man is a sinner before the Almighty God. That is one of the basic facts of the universe and one of the basic facts of life. Now, we’ve tried to get away from this in the modem world, we hate to hear this word 'sin.' We try to run from it, and we try to talk about it in other terms. This is one of the weaknesses of religious liberalism, that in throwing out some old traditional conceptions, liberalism fell victim to the danger that forever confronts any new view, and that is that it became sentimental and soft, feeling that man was evolving from a lower state to a higher state and eventually he would move on up the evolutionary ladder and throw off all of the evils and sin of his nature. Then, we came back to see that even after all of that man is still a sinner. ... At bottom, the conflict is not between the id and the superego but the conflict is between God and man. And the universe stands with that glaring picture of the reality of life-that man is a sinner, man is a sinner in need of God’s redemptive power. We can never escape this fact."

"Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice, and justice at its best is power correcting everything that stands against love."

"Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend."

"Means we use must be as pure as the ends we seek. Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive at that goal."

"The first question which the priest and the Levite asked was: 'If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?' But ... the good Samaritan reversed the question: 'If I do not stop to help this man, what will happen to him?'"

"I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality ... I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word."

"So the question is not whether we will be extremists, but what kind of extremists we will be. Will we be extremists for hate or for love? Will we be extremists for the preservation of injustice or for the extension of justice? In that dramatic scene on Calvary's hill three men were crucified. We must never forget that all three were crucified for the same crime — the crime of extremism. Two were extremists for immorality, and thus fell below their environment. The other, Jesus Christ, was an extremist for love, truth and goodness, and thereby rose above his environment."

"In deep disappointment I have wept over the laxity of the church. But be assured that my tears have been tears of love. There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love. Yes, I love the church. How could I do otherwise? … I see the church as the body of Christ."

"Whenever the early Christians entered a town, the people in power became disturbed and immediately sought to convict the Christians for being 'disturbers of the peace' and 'outside agitators.' But the Christians pressed on, in the conviction that they were 'a colony of heaven,' called to obey God rather than man. Small in number, they were big in commitment. They were too God-intoxicated to be 'astronomically intimidated.'"

"'In God we live and move and have our being.' Without God the whole cosmos would crumble to nothingness. Without God our human efforts would turn to ashes and our sunrises into darkest night. Without God the whole drama of human life will be a meaningless myth. God is forever on the scene sustaining and protecting us."

"To be a Christian without prayer is no more possible than to be alive without breathing."

"It is our prayer that we may be children of light, the kind of people for whose coming and ministry the world is waiting."

"When our days become dreary with low-hovering clouds of despair, and when our nights become darker than a thousand midnights, let us remember that there is a creative force in this universe working to pull down the gigantic mountains of evil, a power that is able to make a way out of no way and transform dark yesterdays into bright tomorrows. Let us realize that the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice … Let us go out realizing that the Bible is right: 'Be not deceived. God is not mocked. Whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.' This is our hope for the future, and with this faith we will be able to sing in some not too distant tomorrow, with a cosmic past tense, 'We have overcome! We have overcome! Deep in my heart, I did believe we would overcome.'"


1. MEDITATE 
daily on the teachings and life of Jesus.

2. REMEMBER 
always that the nonviolent movement seeks justice and reconciliation — not victory.

3. WALK and TALK 
in the manner of love, for God is love.

4. PRAY 
daily to be used by God in order that all humanity might be free.

5. SACRIFICE 
personal wishes in order that all humanity might be free.

6. OBSERVE 
with both friend and foe the ordinary rules of courtesy.

7. SEEK 
to perform regular service for others and for the world.

8. REFRAIN 
from the violence of fist, tongue, or heart.

9. STRIVE 
to be in good spiritual and bodily health.

10. FOLLOW 
the directions of the movement and of the servant leader on a demonstration.

I hereby pledge myself — my person and my body — to the nonviolent movement. Therefore I will keep the (above) ten commandments.

MLK, the Southern Christian Leadership Conference (SCLC), and civil rights participants and volunteers were all required to sign a Commitment Card featuring these Christian principles in order to take the civil rights struggle and the nonviolent message throughout the South together.

Martin Luther King, Jr. "Selma" Film Synopsis


Emmaus City Racial Reconciliation Worcester MA Soma Acts 29 3DM Christian Reformed Network of Missional Communities


Vital, volatile, and victorious. "Selma" is absolutely breathtaking. This is exceptional filmmaking that reveals where we come from, who we are, and the road ahead we all still need to walk. An essential movie to be added to America's film library. Never a false note. Never a wasted moment. I continue to be shaken each time I watch this film from the shocking beginning to the stirring end. An astounding accomplishment for everyone involved, including Director Ava DuVernay, Actors David Oyelowo and Carmen Ejogo, Screenwriter Paul Webb, Cinematographer Brad Young, and all the other craftsmen who made this piece of art to showcase a key moment in history. "Selma" will stand the test of time and is deserving of every accolade it continues to receive. Thank God for everyone this film honors and for those who persevered to get it made. May He light our way so that we can continue in His spark and His strength that stoked the firebrands who made the march from Selma to Montgomery, Alabama in 1965.

MLK Selma Film "Glory" Song Lyrics and Video


One day, when the glory comes
It will be ours, it will be ours
Oh, one day, when the war is one

We will be sure, we will be here sure
Oh, glory, glory

Hands to the Heavens, no man, no weapon
Formed against, yes glory is destined
Every day women and men become legends
Sins that go against our skin become blessings
The movement is a rhythm to us
Freedom is like religion to us
Justice is juxtaposition in us
Justice for all just ain't specific enough
One son died, his spirit is revisitin' us
Truant livin' livin' in us, resistance is us
That's why Rosa sat on the bus
That's why we walk through Ferguson with our hands up
When it go down we woman and man up
They say, "Stay down" and we stand up
Shots, we on the ground, the camera panned up
King pointed to the mountain top and we ran up

(Chorus Repeat)

Now the war is not over
Victory isn't won
And we'll fight on to the finish
Then when it's all done
We'll cry glory, oh glory
We'll cry glory, oh glory

Selma's now for every man, woman and child
Even Jesus got his crown in front of a crowd
They marched with the torch, we gon' run with it now
Never look back, we done gone hundreds of miles
From dark roads he rose, to become a hero
Facin' the league of justice, his power was the people
Enemy is lethal, a king became regal
Saw the face of Jim Crow under a bald eagle
The biggest weapon is to stay peaceful
We sing, our music is the cuts that we bleed through
Somewhere in the dream we had an epiphany
Now we right the wrongs in history
No one can win the war individually
It takes the wisdom of the elders and young people's energy
Welcome to the story we call victory
Comin' of the Lord, my eyes have seen the glory
 


(Chorus Repeat)

Bonus:

+ We Have Not Read MLK Enough

Christ is all,

+ Rev. Mike "Sully" Sullivan

Wednesday, March 26, 2025

Something Other Than God? | Lent & Forgiveness w/ Fr. Tolton

 

Fr. Augustus Tolton Mosaic at St. Bede, Williamsburg, VA

Every time Fr. Augustus Tolton chose
forgiveness instead of bitterness,
it was a moment of chipping away
at his own ego –
and it's only when our egos
are out of the way that
we're truly able to love.

+ Jennifer Fulwiler,
Something Other Than God

During this season of Lent, I am reading through Jennifer Fulwiler's compelling autobiography, Something Other Than God. It's a thoughtful recollection of her journey as an atheist wrestling with whether there is a God and if the God revealed in Jesus is worth her faith, trust, and surrender.

Along the way of researching the history of Christianity and engaging its historic claims and catechisms, Jennifer comes across the story of Fr. Augustus Tolton, the first African-American priest, right after the chapter where she makes some intriguing comparisons between the philosophy of Tupac and C.S. Lewis. I immediately thought Tolton's story would have made a fine addition to Our Church Speaks (OCS), the book Emmaus City Church read during the season of Advent, which would also make a great read for the season of Lent for anyone who hasn't picked up OCS yet.

Jennifer introduced me to Fr. Tolton, a saint born in my home state no less, and so I thought I would return the favor with featuring this excerpt from her book for any reader who has never encountered the life of this American saint.

I'm grateful that Tolton's voice continues to cry out to me during this Lenten season to let my ego be refined and my pride turn to ash, especially as Emmaus City and I consider the question, "What Is Incarnational?", as he provides a glimpse of what the Word made flesh looks like in the U.S. while also reminding me that receiving longsuffering and releasing forgiveness are part of the Way of life I get to walk in when I choose to follow Jesus until my dying breath. 

Something Other than God Excerpt
Chapter 22: Fr. Augustus Tolton

I was finding that reading about the lives of the saints – as well as saintly people who might not have been canonized yet, like Father Augustus – was far more helpful in my quest to seek goodness than reading the Catechism alone. The Catechism might tell me to put others before myself, and I'd make a mental note to try to do that at some point. Then I would read of Maximilian Kolbe volunteering to die in place of a young father when they were both prisoners at Auschwitz, and I would realize just how feeble my recent efforts at selfless love had been. My heart would be aflame with a desire to serve others, in a deeper and more vibrant way than when I was simply reading theology. Instead of an intellectual decision, it would be more of a movement of the soul, something powerful within me yearning for more of the pure goodness that had touched me through Maximilian's story.

St. Maximilian Kolbe in Our Church Speaks

Father Augustus Tolton was freed from slavery when he was a child and then attended a Catholic school in Illinois at the invitation of a priest. This was the 1860s, and some parishioners became apoplectic when they saw a black child in their school, but the priest didn't back down. After high school, Augustine was not allowed to attend his local American seminary, so he went to Rome, where he became fluent in Italian, studied Latin and Greek, and earned respect among the hierarchy. After he was ordained a priest in Rome, he went back to the United States to begin his ministry. 

He was returning to the place 
where he'd been enslaved, 
the country where he had been listed 
among another man's possessions, 
alongside furniture and cattle. ... 

In addition to the virulent racism
that was part of his daily life,
Father Augustus also faced
And yet he never reacted with anger.
or even condemned them at all. ... 

Every time Fr. Augustus Tolton 
chose forgiveness instead of bitterness,
it was a moment of chipping away
at his own ego –
and it's only when our egos 
are out of the way
that we're truly able to love.

What I saw in Father Augustus's eyes
was a glow –
a glow of something supernatural,
the source of goodness itself –
which can only come through
when our egos don't get in the way.
Gazing at his picture,
it occurred to me that 
the secret to being good is to be humble.

+ Something Other than God excerpts,
pgs. 147-151


More Our Church Speaks + Lent Posts:

Christ is all,

Rev. Mike "Sully" Sullivan


Wednesday, August 28, 2024

Love Over Fear | Releasing the Goodness of Fierce Forgiveness


The Chosen Season 4, Episode 5: Matthew 5:39-41

Forgiveness is not giving
yourself over to the attacker;
it's giving yourself over
to another way of being.
A way that disempowers the threat.

Forgiveness is not passive
or laissez-faire;
it is fiercely engaged:
"I am willing to forgive ... "

+ Love Over Fear

In the final chapter in the book I wanted to finish reading before the school year starts this week, Love Over Fear: Facing Monsters, Befriending Enemies, and Healing Our Polarized World, Dan White chose to focus on forgiveness in a way that I continue to see as distinctly and desperately needed in my life and in 21st century American Christianity as a whole. The entire chapter reminded me of this quote by Celestin Musekura in Forgiving As We've Been Forgiven: Practices for Making Peace that I continue to come back to:

If Christ is risen, death is defeated. 
Even our deepest hatred 
can be transformed into love.

Read on to learn more and at the end of the post see how the picture above relates to forgiveness.

Forgiveness Tells a New Story

Jesus provides practices and responses of forgiveness that are disruptive. They are infused with "I will not devolve into your way of speaking, of hurting, of mocking, of gossiping, of shaming, or humiliating," nor "will I repay evil with evil but evil with good."

Jesus is inviting His disciples into writing a new story, a new way of engagement, powered by forgiveness. We cannot choose what hurt and pain happen to us, but we can always choose how to relate to what happens to us.

Part of forgiveness is finding
a new story to live by
rather than the one given to us
by those who hurt us,
gossip about us, oppose us,
lie about us, and hate us.
Living by the old story
draws us into the
same practices that hurt us.

Leaving the standoff of "Us vs. Them"
means shifting from the status 
of the victim to the one voluntarily
pouring out love.
This shift is a shift of power.

Power does not emanate from someone
with the loudest mouth
or the biggest sword;
it originates from the agency of love
by God's Spirit.

To live in a new story,
we must see ourselves differently.

Jesus is reframing the story, the characters, and their roles. 

Who Rules Your Story?

Typically, the one who has been wronged rehearses their offenses, over and over and over again. This replay is our grievance story that stirs up our Crock-Pot of desire for vindication. Psychologist Joan O'C Hamilton explains this story:

Initially, a grievance story is simply one's
version of what happened. But over time,
it can become something more malignant
— a detail-packed, often obsessively
repeated, subtly or not-so-subtly
distorted account that embellishes
the role of a villain who is
responsible for one's misery.

Researcher Fred Luskin states,

"The problem with our stories 
is they always focus on 'them'
 — the other person — 
and why he won't change 
or what she won't do. 
That gives them power 
they shouldn't have." 
The constant focus and attention 
on the insult and the offender 
gives them absolute power over us; 
they rule the story. 

Who rules your story? 

Do you want to live by the narrative
of vindication and vengeance rather
than generosity and grace?

I concede there is a moral high
when we punish someone 
who has wronged us.
But it is an addiction like
crack cocaine that will
string us along into death.

Jesus is flipping the story of who holds power. Forgiveness is not powerlessness; it actually might be the only thing powerful enough to transform your enemy. Jesus is giving us insight into the monsters. We see them as desperate, as one who stands before you and pleads, without actually saying it, "Help me, give me the one thing that can overcome my hate, my fear, give me love, the love of Jesus." When we become the forgiver, we begin to disrupt the cycle of who holds power.

Releasing Goodness

To forgive could feel like surrender, a retreat in the context of a battle. But Jesus offers us forgiveness not as a white flag but as a weapon. Wonder of wonders — God suffered for us instead of exacting suffering on His enemies. Jesus absorbed our sin, our grief, and our injuries. We begin to see ourselves dealing with others the way God deals with us, releasing goodness — full of compassion, flowing in mercy.

It is not God's judgment
but God's kindness
that leads to repentance,
a change of heart 
(Romans 2:4).

Can forgiveness
change our enemies?


Shauna Hodges woke one morning, peered out the window, and was startled by the oversized Confederate flag waiving on her neighbor's porch. Shauna and her neighbor Mike had always been on different pages politically, creating some awkwardness in their exchanges, but never in conflict. Shauna is a black churchgoing mother. Mike is an Irish churchgoing grandfather. Shauna is single, and her house is filled with baby toys, piled-up dishes in the sink, and Cheerios littering the floor from her two-year-old.

Mike's home is filled with memories from his life — pictures of his grandkids, a medal of honor hanging over the fireplace mantel, and his well-worn recliner where he reads the Sunday newspaper. They come from different worlds and conveniently stayed out of each other's way, but this flag hanging on Mike's porch really stung Shauna; a daily reminder of slavery every time she walked outside. She did not want her child to see it on a regular basis. What could she do?

She asked her church small group for counsel. Enraged, a few of them began to plan how to rip it down under cover of night. A few others said to "just ignore it," and maybe he'll take it down after a while. None of their answers resonated.

With courage and kindness, she walked across the street to have a conversation. He did not answer the doorbell; with trembling hands she scribbled a note and left it: "Hi neighbor, I'd like to invite you over to get a cup of coffee, and chat about your flag." She carried a pit in her stomach as she waited for his response; two long weeks went by. 

As she was taking a walk with Gracian, her son, on a Saturday afternoon, she noticed Mike pull into his driveway, so she bolted to his house like the paparazzi. She was there with a forced smile to greet him as he exited his car. Mike made it clear he was not interested in connecting. She pressed, "I'm not your enemy; I just want to talk." He relented, "Fine, tomorrow."

Knocking on his door the next day, she wished she had never started pushing this snowball down the hill; it felt bigger than she was. As he let her in, she saw the signs of life, pictures of grandchildren, newspapers stacked, and war paraphernelia on the walls.

They talked for an hour, nibbled on muffins she baked, laughed some, and shared about kids, and grandkids and eventually talked about the flag. He was stubborn, but she was able to unfold a bit of why it hurt her. Relenting halfway, "I'll take it down for you, even though it doesn't make a lick of sense." A few days later, the flag came down. Shauna put a little gift basket on his porch, with a blueberry pie, and another note: "I want you to know how much it means to me." Over that following year, a relationship began to sprout. He shoveled her driveway once when she was snowed in. He even offered to watch her kid if she ever needed a break.

In an urgent moment, she took him up on his offer, while Gracian was taking a nap. When came home to relieve Mike of his babysitting duties, Gracian was still sleeping, they lingered awkwardly at the dining room table. Mike broke the ice: "I've been thinking about the flag thing." He began to see that the flag communicated racism. Then the bombshell: "Honestly Shauna, you are the first black person I've been friends with." Mike was reconsidering who he was and who she was. Shauna's overtures of affection had started breaking the cycle of polarization.

From the outset, Shauna had decided she would forgive Mike for his disparaging feelings toward black folks, the unknowing insensitive remarks that leaked out of his mouth. Christ's words rang in her ears: "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing." Though she initially feared him, she sought to disrupt him with friendship. She positively spoke truth to him, but it was wrapped in connection and compassion. This changed his world.

The Burning Coals

Neuroscience has proven that pummeling your ideological enemy with factoids and arguments will not change your enemy's mind. Shauna's practices toward Mike and the Jesus-practices of forgiveness (see Matthew 5:39-41, pic at the top from The Chosen, and Walk the Extra Mile below) go far beyond tossing information; they give space for the wrongdoer to feel something different, to see us no longer as their enemy, but as a human. 

Jesus' kenotic-love
did not demand reciprocity;
it did not seek to control
the outcomes, 
but it did seek to
affectionately win us over,
to make friends of those
opposed to Him.

"If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head" (Romans 12:20). Here the apostle Paul is giving us some guidance for those who are hardheaded. As we read this, one portion sticks out: "heap burning coals" on an enemy's head. What did he mean by this?

The most dramatic picture we have of burning coals touching our body comes from Isaiah 6:5-7, an act of mercy, of God's initiative to ease Isaiah of his anxiety in God's presence. God, in essence, is saying, "You've done a lot of things that have offended Me, stuff you probably can't even recall, but I forgive you, I want to be near you." These coals are a symbol of God's preemptive forgiveness, an action of God to be near us, with us, close to us.

The coals in this passage are placed on Isaiah's lips because he has already verbalized his wrongs ("Woe is me!"). The coals Paul speaks of in Romans are placed on the head, not on the mouth — the hardness of the head vs. the openness of the mouth. This act of forgiveness (heaping hot coals) isn't given to one who asks for it; they might actually be closed off to it. 

The passage about
heaping hot coals on the head
is about the emotional discomfort
an enemy will experience
when you waken their conscience
through affection;
when they feel kindness
in the face of their meanness.

We cannot manipulate 
someone's response.
We can only heap hot coals
on their head hoping that
they feel the love.

A Jesus-Practice of Forgiveness:
Walk the Extra Mile

The audience Jesus is speaking to has a boot on their neck, upwards to 80% of their income is taken from them in taxes, which keeps them in poverty. According to Roman law, a soldier could command you to carry their gun and gear, so you had to submit. The law limited it to one mile as to prevent soldiers from creating permanent servants on the road. 

Jesus says when this happens to you, keep going after the one-mile mark. The moment you enter into second mile. What is going on?

You are triggering something
that the enemy is not anticipating,
and you force the enemy
to see you differently ...
a human being with dignity,
agency, and the will to serve. 
Your humility invites the one 
who sought to humiliate you 
into humbling themselves.

Jesus exceeds combating our enemy
into awakening our enemy.

Love Over Fear:
The Aikido of Forgiveness
+ pgs. 200, 203-213

Bonus Love Over Fear Quote: 

By dying as He did,
Christ shows that He loves us
in such a way that
He can descend into our private hells.

His love is so empathetic and compassionate
that it can penetrate all barriers
that we construct out of hurt and fear,
in order to enter right into
our despair and hopelessness.

We see this idea expressed
powerfully in John 20.
Twice John presents the disciples
as huddled behind closed doors,
locked in because of fear.
Twice John has Jesus come through
the locked doors and stand
in the midst of that frightened
 and depressed group and
breathe peace into them.

That image 
— 
Christ going through locked doors 
— is perhaps the most consoling image
within our entire faith.

Put simply, it means God can help us
even when we cannot help ourselves.
God can empower us
even when we are too weak
and despairing to even, minimally,
open the door to let Him in.

There is no hell 
— no private hell of wound, depression,
fear, sickness, or even bitterness 
— 
that God's love cannot and will not
descend into.
Once there, (God's love)
will breathe out
the peace of the Holy Spirit.

+ Fr. Ronald Rolheiser,
Prayer: Our Deepest Longing

Bonus Forgiveness Post:


Next Post:


Other 2024 Reading Recs: