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Monday, November 4, 2024

Our Church Speaks | Mary Slessor in Calabar, "Mother of All"

 

"Lord,
the task is impossible for me,
but not for Thee.
Lead the way and
I will follow."

+ Mary Slessor
1848-1915 A.D.

As we step past All Saints' Day and see the season of Advent on the horizon, we among Emmaus City Church are seeking to soak in stories of people throughout the past millenia who have followed Jesus, using Our Church Speaks: An Illustrated Devotional of Saints from Every Era and Place as our resource. As these dear sisters and brothers throughout time and space sought to reflect the humility and holiness of Christ, so do we in the upcoming year ahead:

"Pursue peace with everyone,
and holiness —
without it no one will see the Lord."
+ Hebrews 12:14

When we handed these books out to our congregation this past weekend, this is part of the note we included inside each one:

This might seem at first
to be a peculiar Advent devotional. 
But saints often are peculiar people
who stand out 
in a particular time and place. 
In fact, the times when saints shine
the most are times of darkness.
They give glimpses of Jesus’ Light,
which darkness cannot overcome.

Advent begins in the dark
And we, as part of Jesus’ Church,
are called to live as Advent people 
who anticipate Jesus’ coming
into our darkness today to overcome it. 
Ultimately, our hope rests in the God of Advent
who drew near to us 
in Jesus’ first coming
and will come again
to take away 
the darkness forever
and be our eternal Light.
That hope is what saints have embodied
as our sisters and brothers 
across time,
ethnicities, Christian traditions,
nationalities, and more.

As we step into this next year,
our prayer is that we will shine 
all the more with the holy light
of Christ in us and through us. 
And we pray that we
“being rooted and firmly established in love,
may be able to comprehend with all the saints
what is the length and width,
height and depth of God’s love.”
After all, “the Father has enabled us
to share in the saints’ inheritance in the light.
He has rescued us from 
the domain of darkness and
transferred us into the Kingdom
of the Son He loves.”

This post features an excerpt from Our Church Speaks so that you might also walk some of this journey with us with reflection, prayer, and anticipation for how the Light of the world might shine in your life during this season.

Mary Slessor included in Our Church Speaks

Mary Slessor
Defender of Children

Many Nigerians revere Mary Slessor as a messenger of mercy who transformed society through the gospel of hope. She grew up in a working-class Presbyterian family in Scotland. Family hardship forced Slessor to work in a factory as a child, but she resolved to become a missionary, no matter the obstacles. While working in a mill in Dundee, she studied African languages in her spare minutes at work, during walks to and from home, and in the late-night hours.

After years of study, Slessor got a teaching position in Calabar, Nigeria, in 1875. The Calabar coast had long been a center of transatlantic slave trade and had a reputation as one of the deadliest regions on earth. Though the trade had been officially outlawed decades before Slessor's arrival, the trauma of slavery left deep scars in the Calabar cultural memory. Slessor soon realized that her work in Nigeria would extend far beyond her teaching position. 

Mary Slessor ministered 
to those suffering from smallpox 
and developed economic opportunities 
to give women greater security and autonomy. 

Local superstition considered twins 
the offspring of evil spirits, 
so the babies were abandoned in clay pots 
and the mother was often put to death. 

Slessor adopted abandoned children 
whenever she found them 
and preached the good news 
that Jesus Christ had forever
defeated the world of evil spirits
and that a good and loving God
had reconciled the world to Himself.

Slessor gained respect among the locals for her humility, proficiency in local languages and customs, and ability to help resolve disputes among conflicting tribes. She settled among the Okoyong people, and her home became known as an outpost of compassion, healing, and the light of Christ.

Scripture

"Behold, children are a heritage
from the LORD,
the fruit of the womb a reward."
+ Psalm 127:3

Meditation: Defender of Children

Pharoah viewed the Hebrews as a growing threat to the Egyptian way of life, so he ordered all Hebrew baby boys killed. King Herod feared that a future king would arise from Bethlehem, so he ordered all boys ages two and under to be killed in that region.

In first-century Rome, it was common practice to leave unwanted children, especially baby girls, to die of exposure to the elements. Child sacrifice was common in the Incan Empire. Three thousand bones of sacrificed young children have been excavated in Sardinia in the Mediterranean. In China, there is a long tradition of valuing male children over female children. As the philosopher Han Fei Tzu wrote, "A father and mother, when they produce a boy, congratulate each other; but when they produce a girl, they put her to death." In Japan, the practice of mabiki, which literally means to pull plants from an overcrowded garden, was used as a form of population control. Parents would often suffocate their second or third sons. Daughters were usually spared because they could be married off or sold as servants or prostitutes.

On every continent, 
in nearly every culture, 
in every age, there is a tragic history 
of the devaluing and killing of children. 
In our own age, 
abortions and child abandonment 
continue this pattern.

This is one of the most important ways
in which the Christian faith offers
cultural critique and
seeks the common good
for every society it encounters.
When the church enters a culture
for the very first time,
one of the first things that 
often happens is immediate advocacy
and intervention on behalf of children.
(Ex. see St. Cabrini in NYC)

This is the story of Mary Slessor,
and she stands in a long, diverse,
beautiful tradition of elevating children
to a place of equal value
in the eyes of adults.

Followers of Jesus do this not only because our Lord said, "Let the little children come to Me and do not hinder them" (Matthew 19:14), but also because in the incarnation of the Son of God, the second person of the Holy Trinity became a human baby. 

The birth of Christ, 
the Word made flesh, 
dignifies all children
everywhere.

Prayer

O God, You desire that all people be saved and come to knowledge of the truth. Just as You prospered the ministry of Mary Slessor in Nigeria, so prosper all those who live, preach, and teach the gospel at home and in distant lands; protect them in all perils, support them in their loneliness, sustain them in the hour of trial, give them Your abundant grace to bear faithful witness, and endue them with burning zeal and love, that they may turn many to righteousness through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

pgs. 14-16

The Celebrity & The Saint

The celebrity demands,
"Look at me!"
The saint whispers,
"Look at God."

The celebrity says,
"Try to be like me,
but you'll never be like me."
The saint says,
"Why would anyone want to be like me?
Who has God made you?"

The celebrity is ever ascending,
climbing the tower of Babel
to the double-platinum throne.
The saint is ever descending,
saying, "Please have my seat, I insist."

The celebrity offers you everything
you want but can never have.
The saint offers you the thing you fear
but will redeem your soul.

The celebrity is a Ferrari
screaming down the highway
with music blaring.
The saint is the freshwater creek
beside the highway
that almost nobody ever notices
and is nearly impossible to hear
over the roar of traffic.
Yet the water murmurs
as it wanders over stones
and around oak roots.
It is not silent.

+ Ben Lansing & D.J. Marotta,
Our Church Speaks

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Many blessings of peace and presence,

Rev. Mike “Sully” Sullivan

Saturday, April 29, 2023

Journey with Jesus and Kids | The Missio Dei is a Family Story

 

Jesus Hugs Children Around the World by Amy Jones, AJs Pallette

The missional call has always been given to the common folk: the exhausted priests, the prostitutes, the peasants, and those without status (often children). So whether you're feeling strong or weak, full to the brim or running on empty, God wants you and (those you call your) family to join with Him in His mission. He's just looking for willing hearts. + Hugh Halter, Righteous Brood: Making the Mission of God a Family Story


This post seeks to honor Emmaus City Church's equipping with Renaissance MCs and Sarah Cowan Johnson: An Evening on Family Discipleship & MCs

Both Sarah's award-winning book, Teach Your Children Well: A Step-by-Step Guide to Family Discipleship (2022), along with Hugh Halter's most recent Righteous Brood: Making the Mission of God a Family Story (2023), are bold, beautiful, and brimming collections of humble wisdom and everyday stories from generous practitioners who have lived out household discipleship among chosen, adopted, biological, and relational family ties brought together by faith in Jesus. So whether you are a friend, mentor, teacher, neighbor, grandparent, guardian, or parent, this content is for you.

Not all of Emmaus City could make the time to join for this special meal and training, so below will feature some excerpts from Hugh's and Sarah's books focused on stages of discipleship with kids. This is merely an introduction so I would encourage you to seek out these resources for yourself. Here is a preview of both books via podcasts:

+ God's Story Podcast: Sarah Cowan Johnson: Teach Your Children Well (24+ Minutes) 
+ Saturate Podcast: The Righteous Brood with Hugh Halter (32+ Minutes)

Both Sarah's and Hugh's books are worth their weight in gold in providing parents, community servant leaders, and mentors we all can learn from because in Jesus' economy, the older can serve the younger and the younger can teach the older how to be with God together.

The disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who is greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven?” Jesus called a little child to Him and put the child among them. Then He said, “I tell you the truth, unless you turn from your sins and become like little children, you will never get into the Kingdom of Heaven. So anyone who becomes as humble as this little child is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven. And anyone who welcomes a little child like this on my behalf is welcoming Me." + Matthew 18:1-5 


Righteous Brood: Making the Mission of God a Family Story by Hugh Halter

 
Holistically Forming Christ in Kids' Lives Together + Hugh Halter

The mission of God is a family story — a story that will not only transform the lives of those around you but will also transform your own life, the lives of the kids you love, and even the next generation's lives. It's not an invitation made only to those who have life figured out. ... It is an invitation to the kind of life that will allow you the opportunity to really know the Jesus who came to save this world — and to join in with the amazing Kingdom work He's continuing to do ... When we live into God's bigger story and get involved in His mission, our kids can experience what it really means to follow Jesus — and they often end up living their own Kingdom stories, too. 

Paul summed up the power of Kingdom discipleship this way (and it should be the goal of every parent, guardian, or adult who loves kids): "until Christ is formed in you" (Galatians 4:19, emphasis mine). We are to help form Christ in kids (and they will do the same for us) ... the whole life of Jesus, not just the words about Jesus. ... As we let our humanity become like the humanity of Jesus — and as we help our kids do the same. We focus on:

+ The Head (mind) of Jesus: having the same focus as Christ and viewing the world as He does.  
Give kids a window into what you believe.  
Help them to engage with God in ways that relate to who they are.  
Teach them to be curious. 
+ The Heart of Jesus: allowing our hearts to break over the things that break Jesus' heart.  
Live generously. 
Don't avoid challenge, potential suffering. 
Delay gratification and experience honest pain over missteps; these are healthy for growth.
+ The Hands (mission) of Jesus: embodying the good news of Jesus and doing the work of God on earth. 
Ora et labora ("pray and work") together.
Find things to fix, build, renovate, and start together that benefit others. 
Give kids the courage to try, fail, and follow a growing desire to make a difference in the world.

When we know our core beliefs and live them out, we can point back to what God is doing in our lives and help our kids understand those core beliefs for themselves. (This is where the head, heart, and hands often intersect.)

What might apprenticing in the head, hands, and heart of Jesus look like in practice? 
If one of our kids is afraid, we show them love and remind them of their identity in Jesus — because our core belief is that love overcomes fear. 
Or if one of our kids is being vengeful toward a sibling, parent, or friend, we talk about forgiveness, grace and kindness — because our core belief is that God shows us mercy and requires the same of us as the hands of Jesus. 
Or if we're encouraging our kids to be generous and grateful for what they have, we can talk about our core belief that God's heart is for the poor like Jesus' was. 
Or if we mess up as parents, grandparents, friends, teachers or simply as adults (because we all do), we say we are sorry and ask for forgiveness, including from kids — because our core belief is that we have fallen short and need to repent and receive forgiveness. 


CT Award-Winning Teach Your Children Well by Sarah Cowan Johnson


Kids Living Up, In, Out, With Jesus + Sarah Cowan Johnson

The Way of Jesus in our current moment is incredibly distinct ... (it's) the ancient, global Way of Jesus that Christians have been practicing for two millenia: 

the Way of enemy-love, humility and grace; 
the Way of generosity, self-control, and surrender; 
the Way of justice and peace; 
the Way of unselfish and forgiving love. 

In a world that is discipling our children to live by the values of greed, power, image, hyper-individualism, unchecked sexual desire, cancel culture, and virtue-signaling slacktivism (along with many other things), our children need our help to walk the beautiful but peculiar Way of Jesus. ... At Sanctuary Church in Providence, Rhode Island we talk about discipleship being a journey in four distinct directions:

Up: Being with Jesus: This direction leads us toward deeper intimacy with God and greater understanding of His purposes. Some classic Upward practices include worship, Scripture study, and prayer. 
In: Becoming like Jesus: This direction leads us on the inner journey of becoming healed and whole people as we are "transformed into His image" more and more (2 Corinthians 3:18). Classic Inward practices include things like confession, silence, and journaling. 
Out: Doing what Jesus did: The Outward direction leads us into the world to demonstrate, in word and in deed, that Jesus is Lord. Witness, hospitality, and compassion are some examples of Outward practices. 
With: Following Jesus together: This direction leads us into community. The Way of Jesus cannot be lived alone. Withward practices include gathering for worship with the Church in a large gathering or MC, eating together, and celebrating together. 


Seasons (Hugh) and Practices (Sarah) of Walking with Jesus Across Stages of Life 

1) Infants and Toddlers Season

At this stage, your job is to survive. Pool resources and pay for babysitting together with others. Whenever possible, try to live close enough to others in your community so you can put the kids down and still enjoy some adult conversation. You are laying foundations for your little ones to know consistent, unconditional love that mirrors the Father's heart. Guess what? That takes quite a lot of energy, patience, and emotional reserves! Don't expect too much of yourselves, and find ways to get your own downtime. This is a good season to simply and consistently plant the seeds of the Gospel in your children's lives. Pray over them out loud, so they get used to hearing you talk to God. Tell them about the love of Jesus. Start planting seeds. Something will grow someday.

Experiential Stage (Ages 0-6) Practices* 

+ Up: Being with Jesus Practices with Infants and Toddlers
Memorize and pray the Lord's Prayer together. 
Play thank-you game: What can we thank God for today? 
+ In: Becoming like Jesus Practices with Infants and Toddlers
Share daily "gratefuls and grumbles" as a family at dinner or bedtime, closing by asking "Who was with you in the good or bad?" Jesus. 
Practice apology and reconciliation: "I'm sorry for X" with response, "I love you and I forgive you."  
+ Out: Doing what Jesus Did Practices with Infants and Toddlers
Pray together for any sirens (ambulance, fire, police) you hear or see. 
Pray for people asking for money, engage them, or both.  
+ With: Following Jesus Together Practices with Infants and Toddlers
Teach kids that "Church" is not a building or event but a bigger family they belong to. 
Practice a regular "extended family dinner" weekly or monthly. Cultivate the expectation that others are welcomed at your table regularly.  
*Sarah provides more thoughtful reflections, stories, and practices in her book. 

2) Elementary Age Season

Include your kids in everything. When you go to help someone on your street, take them along and tell them why and what you're doing, and then thank them for being the Church with you and helping people feel the love of God. Keep communicating in both word and action that Jesus' Church is more than an event or a place to go. When you gather together for meetings, the older children can watch the younger kids, or you can look for other ways for them to join in so that they don't feel pushed out of the action with the grownups. Give them every opportunity you can to serve and contribute. Get them washing up, preparing meals, picking up litter on the street, going on prayer walks. Start reading the stories of Scripture with them. Speak of other people in your community as examples of what they read in Scripture, so they know it is doable to live that way in real life.

Affiliative Stage (Ages 7-12) Practices* 

+ Up: Being with Jesus Practices with Elementary Age 
Read a devotional together. 
Read and sing along with worship lyrics.  
+ In: Becoming like Jesus Practices with Elementary Age
Help the child confess their sin to God. ("I'm sorry God for X." What do you think He says back to you? "I love you and I forgive you.") 
Help the child to learn to identify temptation, manage anxiety, etc., through a growing self-awareness of their inner life and thoughts.  
+ Out: Doing what Jesus Did Practices with Elementary Age
Involve the child in giving decisions as appropriate. 
Ask the child to think of someone to pray for at bedtime, whoever comes to mind.  
+ With: Following Jesus Together Practices with Elementary Age  
Share about your own relationship with Jesus, including your personal growth and learning. 
Plan or participate in father/son or mother/daughter events.   
*Sarah provides more thoughtful reflections, stories, and practices in her book. 

3) Middle School Season

This isn't just a time for kids to be awkward and weird; this is when they enter adulthood. In Jewish tradition (the one Jesus grew up in), the age of twelve was when a young man or woman was invited to be like the bigs. Middle schoolers can learn and memorize Scripture and be invited to live into all the things of God. Build deep character traits of truth, servanthood, humility, generosity, and peacemaking. This is the time to talk about everything — no subject should be taboo. They and their friends are going through incredible instability, facing questions about their identity, struggling with what they see on TV and the internet. They are likely to be exposed to pornography and harmful social media, and are dealing with some pretty heavy life stuff. In our neighborhoods there are a lot of fatherless children, so they need encouragement at every level. There should be openness and freedom for them to discuss whatever is on their mind. In this season, you are praying and guiding them into stability, their identity in Christ, and regularly calling them into mission. At this age, it's crucial that young people have mentors and role models from within the wider Christian community, so look out for and encourage those relationships in their lives.

Searching Stage (Ages 12-18) Practices* 
+ Up: Being with Jesus Practices with Middle Schoolers
Create a space (ex. "God nook") for them to engage with God. Encourage Bible reading. 
Listen to worship music and attend worship nights.   
+ In: Becoming like Jesus Practices with Middle Schoolers  
Read stories of Christian saints. 
Practice prayer journaling.  
+ Out: Doing what Jesus Did Practices with Middle Schoolers
Invite friends to visit a local church service. 
Serve in the local community through regular volunteer work.  
+ With: Following Jesus Together Practices with Middle Schoolers
Find safe people to ask questions with. 
Practice rites of passage such as confirmation, sacraments, coming-of-age celebrations, etc. 
*Sarah provides more thoughtful reflections, stories, and practices in her book. 

4) High School (and Beyond) Season

You might feel like it's too late because you've only just started thinking about discipling kids. But one honest word really can make up for years of missionary neglect. Kids don't need anything from you other than authenticity — a forthright talk about your faith and your doubts. They need to hear the stories of where you've fallen short. You don't have to grovel at the feet of your failures, but with some levity, make fun of yourself and admit the times you were too judgmental with them and their friends, too afraid of trusting them, etc. Again, give them some freedom to fail. Soon they're going to be off into the world on their own, so now is good time to let them make some mistakes and learn how responsibility and consequence work. If you're there in the background, like the Prodigal's father with arms open wide, they'll be much better prepared to make that step into adulthood. For Cheryl and me (Hugh), the most important thing we passed on at this stage was that we wanted to "talk it over" with them. Whether it was about partying with their friends, booze, drugs, sex, tattoos, activities, traveling without us, or anything else that came up, we'd simply say, "Hey, tonight let's get some time to talk it through." As we did this consistently, our kids learned that we weren't talking at them or down to them but instead talking everything through to help them feel confident in their decisions. The talk gave us time to ask, 

How do you feel in your heart about it? 
Any sense of how Jesus is influencing this decision? 
What selfish motives are you struggling with in it? 
Does it feel like a choice between two good options or two bad options? 
What could go wrong if you do this? 
Are you okay with living with the consequences? 
What are you learning about yourself in this?

When we make the time to have even just one significant conversation with our kids each week, it can have a huge impact on them over their lifetime — and not just when they're at home with us. As they then move on into adulthood, you've not only made sure they know they can still talk to you about anything, but you've also given them the tools to make better decision as adults. Aim for an open table, an open home, an open book, and an open road. 

Searching Stage (Ages 14-18 and Beyond) Practices* Continue  
+ Up: Being with Jesus Practices with High Schoolers
Design own God Time. Involve music? Art? Identify their style (not necessarily the same as parent's). 
Practice lectio divina or visio divina. 
+ In: Becoming like Jesus Practices with High Schoolers 
Experiment with rewriting a psalm. 
Practice a nightly examen before bed.  
+ Out: Doing what Jesus Did Practices with Middle Schoolers
Initiate spiritual conversations with curious friends. 
Mentor younger kids.  
+ With: Following Jesus Together Practices with High Schoolers
Seek out significant role models 5-to-10 years older.
Attend mission trips and projects (with or without family). 
*Sarah provides more thoughtful reflections, stories, and practices in her book. 

Growing a household and extended family that will serve God to the fullest begins with us trusting God with the future of our kids. To steward the gift of their precious lives means we must let go.

Owners try to grow their kids in their own likeness.
Godly stewards grow their kids in the likeness of Jesus.

Let them try and fail. 
Let them risk. 
Let them give their money and time to people who need it. 
Let them become close friends with those on the other side of the tracks (from wherever your side is), those who don't share their (fill in the blank).

For our kids to cleave to Jesus, we must get them ready to leave us. When we teach our kids not to fear anything (including dying), but consider the awe of a God who is with them and bringing His Kingdom of enemy-love, peace, justice, mercy, and joy, especially in their hardest moments of life, they will be free to live.

From McKenna Halter (One of Hugh's Daughters)
As I sit and reflect on our family's life on mission, perhaps what sticks out to me the most has been our family's devotion to taking on hard things in life. 
I grew up watching my parents make decisions to walk toward, rather than away from, hardship. Of course, we fail and are far off most of the time, but this has shaped how I found my calling in social work, as well as how I hope to engage as a friend and a parent for the community we have found in Alton. 
Doing hard things has certainly taken on new and deeper meaning since becoming a mom in 2020. Throughout my pregnancy, my husband and I discussed the racial awakening happening across our country, as we would be welcoming a biracial son into the world. 
What I have learned from my parents, and what my husband and I talk about often, is how we can walk toward this fear rather than running from it. While it would probably be easier to shelter our family from the pain and brokenness of our world, that is not where Jesus is leading us as a family. So, we will continue to follow Jesus into hurting places and take on hard things, with the support of our family and our community who walk with us in these spaces. 
  
From Hallie Cowan (Sarah's Mom's Last Email to Her Before She Died) 
I would say to parents who want to see their kids discipled: We are tempted to be a priest for our kids, telling God what the kid meant, and the kid what God meant. No. We should turn our children over to God as soon as possible. Get out of the way! That way, when the kid, as a natural part of growing up, rejects their parents' values, they won't reject God because God is theirs.

+ Excerpts above combined and adapted from Chapters 5-9 in Teach Your Children Well by Sarah Cowan Johnson and Chapters 1 and 4-6 in Righteous Brood by Hugh Halter

Christ is all,

Rev. Mike "Sully" Sullivan

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Thursday, March 4, 2021

CN | Godspeed: The Slower Path to Being Known & Loved Fully

 


The late Japanese theologian
Kosuke Koyama wrote a book
titled Three-Mile-an-Hour-God.
Dr. Koyama was trying to convey
that if we want to connect with God,
we'd be wise to travel at God's speed.
God has all the time in the world,
and as a result He is not in a rush.

+ Rich Villodas,
The Deeply Formed Life
Living at Godspeed is not first about a pace of life, as though simply going slower will solve everything. This is a second birth into the childhood you never had, or once had but lost ... to discover what it means to be God's child again.

This whole pilgrimage centers on a pivotal question and answer in Scripture, a question and answer that repeat themselves in every story, every song. These are God's searching question of "Where are you?" and our reluctant response of "Here I am." I am frequently asked: "Where is God?" My experience is that the question is less the cry of a hardened skeptic and more the cry of a lost child.  

It is also a question the Bible itself asks.  
In Psalm 42, a writer wrestling 
with grief lists among his troubles 
the many times people ask him, 
"Where is your God?" 
Starting in Genesis 
and moving dramatically 
all the way to the cross, 
God gives startling answers: 
"Here I AM – closer than you think, 
and in places you'd never expect."

Many people don't notice the first place God appears in Scripture, nor the first image God gives Himself. In Genesis chapter 1, before the creation of the world, the Holy Spirit is pictured like a brooding dove hovering over dark waters. Tohu-Wabohu is the Hebrew word not only for the dark formless waters but also for the nightmarish chaos every child and adult fears. Yet, despite the darkness, this is an image pregnant with hope. So, what was the Holy Spirit doing hovering here? The rest of Genesis unfolds the scandalous answer: The God of heaven was making human children.

My wife, Julie, in her book, A Theology of the Ordinary, explains that if you were growing up pagan in ancient Mesopotamia, your parents would tuck you in bed with stories to help you make sense of the world, the gods, and why you exist. When the Genesis account was written down (at first it was told orally), alternative pagan accounts of creation taught that humans existed because the gods needed slaves. This was the preferred bedtime story Pharaoh hoped his slaves would use to tuck in their children. But Hebrew parents told a different story. "In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. And God made humans not because God was needy, but because God loved making children. God didn't need slaves. God wanted children. God wanted kidsSlaves can only obey or disobey. Children can love and be loved. Now rest, my child. And remember, tomorrow is the Sabbath!"

Is it really true that the God of the heavens made human children to walk the earth? That God made humans out of love, not out of necessity? In case this talk of God wanting children sounds too good to be true or too scandalous to believe, the exclamation mark on God's intention comes in Genesis 1:26-27: "Let us make mankind in our image ... " So God created mankind in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them." ... And in case someone doubts whether or not making human children in God's image was a good idea, verse 31 puts a second exclamation mark on God's joy in doing so: "God saw all that He had made, and it was very good." ... Genesis 1 reads like a new parent's journal entry in a baby book.

It wasn't the end of the story, but it was a great start. From the beginning, anyone reading Genesis would know that a loving God had made great kids and would provide for them abundantly, even if it cost Him. Years later, hovering over the waters of Mary's darkened womb, God's Spirit would again conceive a child who would shock the world. When people doubted his parentage, God's Spirit would again hover over the waters of the River Jordan, as God the Father declared the human Jesus to be His holy Son: "That's My boy! This is My Son, whom I love, and in whom I delight!" Few ears could hear it, much less believe. But Jesus, "the firstborn among many brothers and sisters" (Romans 8:29), heard those words for us so that by believing in Him, we might be born again.

What happens when you are born again? What do you become? A Christian, yes, but first a child. The path ahead with God is part pilgrimage and part pregnancy. The pregnancy is conceived in the divine desire for you to be born again as God's child.

The truth is that none of us can give a complete "Here I am" to God's searching question. Only Jesus can offer an adequate response on our behalf. He will do so from the places we avoid, the places we fear, the places we refuse to go. But Christ's "Here I AM" to the Father, by the power of the Holy Spirit, will chart a course to forgiveness that frees us to enter in the glorious freedom of the children of God. ... Tonight, don't fall asleep a slave. Join the Genesis rebellion. Be born again God's child.

+ Excerpt from Backyard Pilgrim: 
by Anglican priest Matt Canlis

Bonus Song:

We the Kingdom
feat. Maverick City Music
2020 A.D.

I was walking the wayside, 
Lost on a lonely road.
I was chasing the high life, 
Trying to satisfy my soul.
All the lies I believed in 
Left me crying like the rain.
Then I saw lightning from Heaven,
And I've never been the same ...

I'm going to climb a mountain,
I'm going shout about it, 
I am a child of love!
I found a world of freedom,
I found a friend in Jesus, 
I am a child of love!

I've felt the sting of the fire, 
But I saw You in the flames
Just when I thought it was over,
You broke me out of the grave ... 
(Chorus)

Nothing can change the way You love me,
Nothing can change the way ...
I belong to You! Yes I do!
Nothing can separate! 
(Chorus)




Christ is all,

Rev. Mike "Sully" Sullivan

Tuesday, February 23, 2021

CN | No Longer Strangers: Belonging in a World of Alienation

 


If Jesus is telling the truth, we gain much more than we could possibly lose. + Gregory Coles, No Longer Strangers


For this Special City Notes released on the day of this book's release, I'm honored to be part of Gregory Coles book launch team for his second book, No Longer Strangers: Finding Belonging in a World of Alienation, after his inaugural work, Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey of Faith and Sexual Identity. Greg has already had much to teach me about Jesus' beauty and faithfulness in writing and in person when I had the pleasure of meeting him at Revoice: Fostering Peace. Honoring Dignity. Preserving Faith. back in the summer of 2019, and I'm grateful to continue to learn from him in what I'm sure will be one of my Top 10 books from 2021.

If we only ever pay attention to our own sense of belonging, without giving a second thought to the belonging of others, we might miss out on the moments when our location in the world matters most. Those who belong like Jesus belonged don't just receive the gift of belonging; we turn around and give it away. + Gregory Coles, No Longer Strangers

The "Gaining More Than We Could Possibly Lose" excerpts below are adapted
 from Chapter 11: The Origami Artists in No Longer Strangers: Finding Belonging in a World of Alienation by Gregory Coles

No Longer Strangers: Gaining More Than We Could Possibly Lose

I said a tentative goodbye to the idea of having kids in the same moment I concluded I was probably going to be single and celibate for my entire life. I told myself it was fitting for someone so obviously ill-suited to childcare to remain childless. Sometimes I even felt relieved ... But sometimes, Greg-Without-Kids didn't want to be passionate about things in solitude. Sometimes I dreamed of sharing my life's ordinary moments with mini-humans who might adopt my fascinations and mimic my mannerisms
 – who might grow up differently because they had grown up in my company. Sometimes the thought of never having kids felt like a tremendous loss. Sometimes it still does ... 

I am not, in the physiological sense of the word, a eunuch. And yet, based on the amount of sex I'm currently having and the number of biological offspring I expect to leave behind when I die, the distinction between me and a eunuch sometimes feels negligible. I am, as far as I can tell, precisely the kind of person Jesus has in view when He says in Matthew 19, "There are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others –
 
and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven." I seem to fit that third category rather well: the people who live a sexless and childless life, not because they have no other options, but because they truly believe that the Kingdom of heaven is worth every ounce of their devotion.


For people of Jesus' day, one of the great tragedies of a eunuch's life was that he would never have the opportunity to become a biological parent. His bloodline would end the day he died, leaving no one behind to carry on his legacy or to prove that his time on earth had mattered. Infertile women of that era faced the same fear. So did every married couple unable to conceive children together for any reason. To be without offspring was to go unremembered. Perhaps it's fitting that Jesus' next act in Matthew 19 – just after describing people who, like Jesus Himself, live as eunuchs by choice – is to place His hands on and pray for the little children who are brought to Him.

Jesus doesn't withdraw from the lives of children simply because He's not the one parenting them. On the contrary, Jesus declares children central to the Kingdom of heaven. He invests in them, takes them seriously, invites them to follow in His footsteps of passionate love for God and neighbor. For Jesus' disciples, biological parenting isn't meant to be the only way we leave a legacy or build a family. It's not even meant to be the primary way we leave a legacy or build a family. Jesus treats the family of God as something much more substantial than just a pretty metaphor. It is a concrete claim, a literal state of being. Those who follow God together are family to one another.

 

At the end of Matthew 19, Jesus promises that the people who give up the usual trappings of home and spouse and children for the sake of the Gospel will receive a hundred times as much in return. In short, he is promising us the family of God.


Jesus is promising us to one another. If this promise doesn't sound like good news – if the family of God sounds like a cheap substitute for a spouse and a picket fence and two-and-a-quarter children – perhaps it's because we in the Church have failed to really live like family to one another. Do we believe that nuclear family is in some way superior – more permanent, more dependable, more meaningful, more concrete – than spiritual family? Jesus certainly didn't seem to. Maybe it's time for those of us who claim to follow Him to step up our game and start acting like actual sisters and brothers and fathers and mothers to one another. Maybe we need to start being for one another the family Jesus promised we would be for one another.


Another of my favorite biblical promises for single people comes from Isaiah: 


And let not the eunuch complain, 
"I am only a dry tree." 
For this is what the LORD says: 
"To the eunuchs who keep my Sabbaths, 
who choose what pleases Me and hold fast to My covenant –  
to them I will give within My temple and its walls 
a memorial and a name 
better than sons and daughters; 
I will give them an everlasting name 
that will endure forever." (56:3-5)


I'm not saying that those of us who remain single, or those couples unable to conceive biological kids, can't still become parents. Fostering and adoption are beautiful and necessary modes of parenting that are open to us all  even the celibates. My point is, rather, that every follower of Jesus is called to leave a legacy, to partake in the family of God, to participate in the lives of those younger than us, regardless of whether we ever become parents in a biological or legal sense. There is something we lose when our obedience to Jesus leaves us childless ... 


But if Jesus is telling the truth, we gain much more than we could possibly lose. 
+ Gregory Coles, No Longer Strangers, pgs. 107-109


Bonus: A Song to Complement Content Above:

Maverick City Music, 2019 A.D.

I will sing of Your goodness,
I will sing of Your love, 
Though the seasons come quickly, 
You have always been enough. 
Though the night may get darker, 
Though the waiting seems long, 
You have always been faithful 
To remind me of Your love.

You are good, 
In the morning "I’ll sing You are good!" 
In the evening, "I’ll sing You are good!" 
You are good to me. 

You have always been patient, 
You have always been kind.
You’re consistent through the ages, 
Oh, what a friend of mine. 
So I’ll remind my soul to bless You, 
Standing firm upon Your Truth 
Knowing You cannot be shaken, 
‘Cause I’ve seen what you can do!
(Chorus

You keep on getting better! You keep on getting better!

Christ is all,

Rev. Mike "Sully" Sullivan